That’s me on the right, with Mr. Magnet Man (great idea!), doin’ The Hard Smile. That’s when you stick your teeth out for all you’re worth. At a certain age in childhood that’s what kids do when told to “Say Cheese.” They literally say cheese and stick their teeth out with all their might. They think that’s what smiling is.
These days I still employ my hard smile and stick those white chiclets out. The hard smile is a way of saying I’m ok when I’m not. It’s a way of saying “Yeah, I’m getting’ along! Everything is fine!” The important thing to know is when to employ the hard smile, and when to set it aside and do some truth-telling. Because the hard smile, and “being fine”, is seductive. It’s employed on Facebook all the time Let’s face it. The world runs on lies. “How are you?” we ask. “I’m fine, how are you?” we answer. What a load of shit! Oops, sorry. It’s that truth seeping out again.
Here, on WordPress with my fellow Bipolars, I am able to put the hard smile aside. I let my face droop a little and say, “Hi! I’m a fuckin’ mess!” And ya know what? I don’t hear an echo. And for that, I am grateful. I hear love and support and kindness reflected back. Thank you.