Today I got a super nasty comment on my silly post about Demi Lovato’s missing asshole. The jist of it was, the commenter was an experienced photographer, and no, Demi’s asshole was NOT photoshopped out, and didn’t I know anything about anatomy? She then went on to spout about how the wrong placement of an asshole would cause shit to spray out the back of one’s backside (this DOES happen to me sometimes, maybe my asshole was wrongly placed). Aside from feeling like I had been punched in the face, there are a couple of reactions I had to this nasty commenter, the first being that she clearly has no sense of humor, because this post was written in a very silly spirit. The second is that the commenter sounded very angry, and like she was trying to share her toxic cheer with me.
I’ll admit that sometimes I’ve had a negative reaction to someone’s blog, but I have never written a mean, nasty or angry comment. The most I’ve done is click the “X” in the top right corner with a flourish. What I do try to do is read blogs in a spirit of openness and compassion, because everyone has a story to tell, and I believe it’s safe to say, if they’re writing, they’re looking for validation. I try my hardest to write something kind, or encouraging, or insightful. I do my best. This is what makes WordPress such a supportive community. If there’s ranting to be done, I rant on my own blog, or I commiserate with someone else who is ranting. I would be ashamed to dole out a written slap in the face. No one deserves that. It’s as simple as, if you don’t like what you’re reading, stop reading it.
Am I being overly sensitive? Maybe. Probably. But I’m not going to stop trying to make this a place where people come to laugh, cry, and share. I’m not going to stop opening my heart and writing whatever it wants to say. Even if it’s about an asshole. I’m not going to let this be anything but my Happy Place. Thank you for joining me here, friends.