The Inevitable Nasty Comment

Today I got a super nasty comment on my silly post about Demi Lovato’s missing asshole.  The jist of it was, the commenter was an experienced photographer, and no, Demi’s asshole was NOT photoshopped out, and didn’t I know anything about anatomy?  She then went on to spout about how the wrong placement of an asshole would cause shit to spray out the back of one’s backside (this DOES happen to me sometimes, maybe my asshole was wrongly placed).  Aside from feeling like I had been punched in the face, there are a couple of reactions I had to this nasty commenter, the first being that she clearly has no sense of humor, because this post was written in a very silly spirit.  The second is that the commenter sounded very angry, and like she was trying to share her toxic cheer with me.

I’ll admit that sometimes I’ve had a negative reaction to someone’s blog, but I have never written a mean, nasty or angry comment. The most I’ve done is click the “X” in the top right corner with a flourish.  What I do try to do is read blogs in a spirit of openness and compassion, because everyone has a story to tell, and I believe it’s safe to say, if they’re writing, they’re looking for validation.  I try my hardest to write something kind, or encouraging, or insightful.  I do my best.  This is what makes WordPress such a supportive community.  If there’s ranting to be done, I rant on my own blog, or I commiserate with someone else who is ranting.  I would be ashamed to dole out a written slap in the face.  No one deserves that.  It’s as simple as, if you don’t like what you’re reading, stop reading it.

Am I being overly sensitive? Maybe.  Probably.  But I’m not going to stop trying to make this a place where people come to laugh, cry, and share.  I’m not going to stop opening my heart and writing whatever it wants to say.  Even if it’s about an asshole.  I’m not going to let this be anything but my Happy Place.  Thank you for joining me here, friends.

20 thoughts on “The Inevitable Nasty Comment

  1. This post was hilarious! You’re such a good writer 🙂 also, I don’t think you’re being overly sensitive at all and encourage you to continue sharing your opinion 🙂

  2. Whoever left that mean, patronizing, lameshit, bitter, bitter message has MAJOR problems. That dude needs a margarita or some of my Parnate. (But NOT together!!!!!!!!! No MAOIS + alcohol!)

    So… darling, I have a little story to share with y’all that’s fueled by the double shot Peet’s mocha I just indulged in. Hope you don’t mind!

    Here’s a story….of a lovely lady!

    There’s a super-popular blog called Reality Something by Jason. He has something like 80,000 followers. I actually now like Jason because we exchanged a bunch of emails after the following fiasco took place.

    One day he published a bipolar-themed poem (I think) that triggered me, I left some pretty flipped-out comments over there. Later that evening I regretted writing what I wrote , but I couldn’t delete the comments and I asked Jason to do it if he wanted to, but he didn’t feel the need to delete them and I didn’t care at that point. I worked things out with *him*, but then some bitch read what I wrote (and she also read that I told Jason I was sorry) and THEN she flamed me, and so I went off at her!

    I was having a bad day (duh!) but there was no excuse for the crazy shit I wrote. I wish I waited a few hours or a day to comment (or better yet, to NOT comment)

    So who knows? Maybe this malicious hater will regret her comment. Probably not. But that’s all besides the point. You are NOT too sensitive! There will always be haters out there (I got a few haters stop by my blog too – thank God I was able to delete Molly M’s hateful, bitter,crazyyshit comment telling me to go screw myself after I HELPED HER with her book, and of course, as you know, Craig threatened her with his lawyer! Stopped her cold. Worked like a charm!

    You’ll feel better about this slimy shit over the next day – it will melt away.

    Trust me!!!!!!!

    We all love you! You have a fierce & big fan base and your little hater knows it. If she bugs you again, get her email and give it to me. You know I have a JD, right? I’ll represent you!

    • You have a JD TOO!! Fuck, Dyane!! You have, like, EVERYTHING!!! I never stop being impressed with you!! Thanks for the story too, I’d give you a little spank but I can see you already did that yourself 😉 Yeah the shit’s rolling off…writing about it definitely helped. Now I’m gonna go work out, and then…it’ll be like it never happened!!! Thanks as always for the comments, love & support ❤ ❤ ❤

  3. Girl, I AM KIDDING!!! I don’t have a JD LOL!!!!!! ha ha ha hah ha ha!
    I hate lawyers!!!!! But we don’t have to tell any of those cyberbullies that my JD isn’t exactly, um, real… 😉 XOXOXOXOX

  4. I feel there is an unsaid “if you don’t have something positive to say, don’t say anything at all” policy that makes WP a safe place to blog. Of course, some bloggers explicitly ask for “constructive criticism,” in which case a person should feel free to comment as they please within the confines of the spirit of “constructive criticism.” That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

  5. I can relate! I did something I thought was innocently funny on FB and got slapped for it. Cracks me up! Sorry that happened to you! I don’t get it at all, why people get offended. Must be angry in the first place and looking for ways to vent. Grr

  6. Aw, I wanted to read the mean comment but it wasn’t there. 😦 People are assholes. I don’t think you’re being sensitive over it. Your asshole post was hilarious and obviously written as humor, so I don’t know how the person took it seriously *at all*. Fuck them.

  7. Bi, hugs….now for the the words of Glenda the good witch.
    “😆Rubbish …you have no power here. Be gone before somebody drops a house on you!”💗

  8. Nasty commenters should have their own blog forum where they can all openly hate on each other and roll around in each other’s awfulness. That way they can leave the rest of us alone.

    Maybe it was Demi Lovato. She didn’t appreciate you making fun of her. 😉

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